We women are forgiving because we want to believe and have hope in the dream that is in our nature to dream. We want to believe the dream is possible(it is, just not for everyone). We also have it in our nature to nurture and rationalize things, to excuse things and lie to ourselves so that “inmashee il-sefeena”, unlike guys who think in a very clear cut and no nonsense, no frills fashion. We tell ourselves “he is going through a bad time” “he had a bad childhood” blah blah or whatever and we live off of the false hopes we sell ourselves on. Or, we endure horrible situations that no one should endure because we have no confidence in ourselves and believe that this is possibly the best we will ever do. Believe me, so many of the women I know are like this. Beautiful, educated, wonderful, glamorous, good women. They really sadly are.

Woe befall the delusional lady who thinks she has the power to change a man to be the way she wants him to be. No one ever changes themselves UNLESS THEY WANT TO and especially men. Believe me when I say this.

No other person (a man or a woman) will love you exactly the way you want them to, the way you think you need to be loved. Only you can find that love within yourself. In my time on this earth so far, I have found that the love I need and want from others is not to be found just from one person, parts of the love I need I get from my family, my sisters, my friends. My books and the nice stuff I do for myself.

The guy didn’t turn into a chalb, he decided to act like one or was one all along. But he hid it or stopped caring to hide it from you. To a certain extent, it is beyond your control. It’s the risk you take. All you can do is learn that you owe it to yourself to be better to yourself and not allow such people near you again.

There is no such thing as Mr. Right. Only: Mr. Right at that point in time. Mr. Right is the right one if he grows and changes with you and becomes a better person by being with you and because of his relationship with you - because you challenge him to find that better person within himself. And only time tells you if he was right or wrong for you. You just have to itwakleen 3la Allah and take the blind jump when you decide to be with someone for good and true hearted reasons in a relationship or in a marriage. Time and circumstance will tell if it was the right or wrong choice for you.

To me, real love between a man and a woman (or successful love is a better way to put it) is like having a best friend all the time only you get to sleep with them and have babies together.

I also believe that the only true love - the truest most real love there is to be had, is the love between a mother and her child.

Malet 3lay, I talk like I know the secret and have the answers, oo shoofay 7altee… LOOL ;P

Bs i think ill keep it to myself, cuz i dont want to sound like the annoying friend that always thinks that she has all the answers.

Kilma wa7da abi agolha:

Theyre not all “chlab”.

Actually kilmitain:

Sometimes we allow them to act like “chlab”.

Hasan,
True

Purg,
No she is not

Intlxpatr,
Yeh I heard that too…

MsBaker,
you should seriously go back to write! and you and I should discuss such subjects over coffee…Don’t you think?

DR,
I always say this…if he is using me it’s because I am allowing him to..

IntlXpatr’s comment made me pause to think a while.

And MsBaker’s comment is really insightful and full of so many truths. You’re wonderful MsBaker.

Sure time heals but it helps to have support along the way to help us along.