You talked slow ha ;p

The two of them are misakeen. From what I gather from this transcript or conversation, they are two who care - no, love- each other very much, but the guy is very scared and feels he has no control over whatever was happening to him. Not control over HER, but over HIMSELF, and he isn’t someone who is used to handling shaky ground or not being sure of things in his life. He’s one of those who tries to follow “the plan”. He would probably prefer to be with someone he didn’t love as much or didn’t love at all, but the relationship made logical sense to him and fit in with his idea of how things are supposed to go according to “the plan” again. This is just emotional underdevelopment in my view. He likely has a decent heart and truly seems to be trying to be honest, but whatever his reasons are, he cannot handle this intensity of feeling and such a relationship with this girl at this point in his life… The man just is not ready and has another idea of how things are supposed to be in his mind.

To me, guys like this have the makings of decent men and human beings, but it will take a lot of time, hard knocks and lots of life punching them in the gut and slapping them around before they make the realization and hopefully make the next jump to another level of understanding and maturity about what loving someone really is. If they want to, that is. Not everyone wants to change or understand. Real love is about taking a huge calculated chance, a huge risk because you care and believe in someone enough. About realizing that nothing can ever really be controlled, nothing in life is ever on solid ground and nothing is ever really known about what will happen. It’s the not knowing for these people - the unknown that frightens this kind of person. Love scares them. They may not really want real love itself, just the pretend kind. It’s best to let them find their way on their own. Life has a way of giving us opportunities to learn what we need to know, and of giving second or third chances after things come crashing down….

My advice to the girl would be to not let this get any messier for her sake. Don’t go see him, don’t touch him, don’t talk to him. It will be hard and she must accept she will suffer. But it’s time to let go. he’s probably a good guy and He will always love her, not that that does her any good - in fact, that might make it worse right now. I won’t repeat the cliched old line that there is someone out there for her who will love her etc etc (which is true), but I will tell her that most of the time, not everyone gets to be with their soul-mate or the one that they really love - even when the love is mutual. Life sucks sometimes and all you can do is put your head down and run straight headlong into and against the wind because there just isn’t any other way to go…

But she will be ok and it will all be better soon. Bit by bit. She will see :*

Im confused now !

Is this b4 or after u msged me ?!

my advice, let go.