Parked outside the ice-cream place, they sat in the car waiting for their friend. It was freezing yet nothing like ice-cream would melt away all the pain. “He hurt me!” her friend explained. As her friend gave details on what went on this weekend, she could see the tears coming out of her friend’s pretty eyes. She felt like crying too. This sounds way too familiar. It’s the story of my life, she thought. It’s the story of OUR lives.
The story is always the same. There is always the one who loved us way too much. We believe that no one would ever love us the way he did. Although deep inside we know “him and I” doesn’t work, we’d be so attached because of the love he has towards us. We would “Pitty Love” him and might end up hurting him.
Then, another would come along. He’d show us “Love” in a different way; or at least this is what we think. Some would think of him as Mr. Charming or Mr. Perfect where in a real world, he doesn’t really exist. Things don’t really work out between them and someone has to get hurt at the end.
Then of course, there would always be the “Heart Breaker”. From day one, we know that he would break our heart, yet we let him do it over and over and over.
There is always “The Friend” who we really like. There is nothing we can do about it yet when one gets the courage to take a step further, the friendship is gone forever. We spend years and years regretting losing this friend. But we do learn from our mistakes, so when another “Friend” comes along, we refuse to think of us being anything more than friends. Later, we come to know that if we did, things might have not gone wrong but now it is late.
At a certain time of our lives, we would meet “The Eligible Bachelor”. His mom thinks we are the perfect one and so does every one else in this planet. He pretends to be Mr. Perfect until we actually believe it when in fact he’s nothing close to perfection. He lives in his own confusion bubble and makes us think we are the ones at fault. He might hurt some of us, while other would be strong enough to fight him back. Some of us would end up marrying him while others call things off few weeks before the big date. Either way, we always end up looking at the wedding dress thinking what went wrong.
Also, there is always the “Mr. Perfect at the wrong time”. We believe he is our soul mate, yet the timing is bad. Most of the times, he would be taken and we’d think if we only met earlier. Was he really the perfect one or did we just think that because we couldn’t have him.
There are many “Him” in our lives. It doesn’t matter if it was Boo, Lee, Yaz, Cash, Bee or Wooz. Eventually, they all end up being the same “him” to us. Should we regret having them in our lives? We sure shouldn’t. With every time we get hurt, we learn something new about our selves; and more importantly about the life we are living.
umm, Yaz?
what did i ever do to u?
me no like this post
I can’t help it, its in my nature.
3awwarni galbi.
I know what your talking about, but I can’t really say these things have happened to me.
and whoever this has been happening to, should spend more time thinking about themself and what they want in a guy, to avoid such heartache.
Mind Shattering
Spot on!
I guess we learn from each one because each one teaches us one thing..How to be stronger person.
There are some gurls who have to go thru the learning curve while so many out there are lucky because they actually end up with the ones they love (no “my mom wants to find me someone” or “no i cant committ” or no cries every night ..he just wants to be with her.)
Or there are gurls who are lucky in another aspect..like as soon as the one that they thought they loved broke their heart, a few months later they find the perfect guy who really loves them and wants to spend the rest of his life with her..and guess wat happens in the end? THEY DO.
Ow there are so many examples!
So I guess its a matter of right time, right place and luck!
nice and true! my input is, i guess we all get what’s coming to us at the end. Elly Allah Katbeh beseer.. some get really lucky, others have to go through some of the list you mentioned.. at the end, it’s what we make of the experiences we’ve gone thru & whether we’ve learned something or not. We never really know Allah shino Kateb lena, until it arrives. Until then, i choose to believe that everything happens for a reason.
Part bout Mr. Perfect is extremely right!! happened to me, its amazing how moms try to make their sons sound like a great catch, whenever that happens you know there is something wrong !!
How very nice of you to end the year with such wise thoughts. And let me add a few tips from experience:
There is no Mr. or Ms perfect; but there is the right person whom we struggle to make right for a relationship to sail smoothly, it requires a lot of sacrifice.
Luck and fate has nothing to do with a perfect match; every relationship has it’s pros and cons, it is “We” who sail the boat, and it is “We” who make sure it could withstand turbulence. It all depends on how much we are willing to give.
Have a wonderful year, and I hope to see you happy with or without the perfect match :*
“It’s the story of my life, she thought.”
me too.. so true Shopa..