Real friends don’t just decide to drop down other friends without prior notice, at least not for me. This is REALLY old story but for some reason it keeps bothering me.
A so called friend was so close that we actually lived, worked, hanged out and traveled together. Early this year and due to me and them being busy all the time, we didn’t see each other like we used to yet kept in touch online and visa phone.
Things were going ok until the night we were invited to this event. I drove to their house, picked them up with along with another friend. The three of us hanged out all night. The next day, we had one of our nice long calls where we mainly discussed this issue regarding the other friend who hanged out with us the night before.
It wasn’t until weeks later when I realized that every single time I tried contacted this friend, they kept ignoring me and never returning my calls/email. I always thought they were just too busy; I can be very busy sometimes that I forget to return few calls.
I started bumping into them at different occasions and as soon I stop by for a chat, all I got was this unfriendly attitude. At first, I just thought they are having a bad day and didn’t think of it personal until I realized it was personal. One night they were so mean that I actually asked if everything was ok. They said nothing and decided to ignore me. Later that night I saw them being all nice laughing and chatting with some of my friends who they know on a hi-hello basis.
What was happening just didn’t feel right and being me, I had to take some action. I called few times but never got an answer. I text msged and once again was ignored. Few weeks later I sent this long email explaining that I have no idea what’s going on and that if they were mad at me for something I did, I am sorry. They didn’t even bother to reply accepting nor declining the apology.
Mutual friends have no idea what’s going on; although I have a doubt that one of them does but just doesn’t want to say anything. I then decided, that I did everything I could and if this how they want things, then let it be.
Now, and months later, it still bother me. Today, they were in mind all day. I keep thinking, should I contact them again? Maybe, I haven’t tried enough. Or is it time to stop and accept that Friends don’t really last that long?
P.S.: Happy what is so called “EID”
ehh madri shagoolich. i may expect this from new friends who befriend me for masla7a. but not from old ones like those who i went to school with.
only fight if it’s worth it.
It happens, I have learned to accept it and leave it. But if you read my post about people who reappear in my life, you will know no one escape from me, no one!
Sigh. Been there. From the sound of it, that friend has made up their mind and nothing you can say or do will change it. Try to move on, as difficult as it is.
I’ve been thru a similar situation be4 .And I know exactly how this feels . Even if time passes ,it still hurts .
I guess what u did was enough . Sometimes ignoring such friends works better than anything else . But as Flam said if it’s worth it , give it one more attempt and call . Otherwise , ma yshofoon shar .
wow.. interesting to read this now.. just discussed this very topic with a friend at dinner tonight. real friends dont just walk away.. real friends at least give u a chance to explain urself before dismissing u from their life.
elmeshkila, it’s easy to say forget about it.. move on.. bs el a9eel a9eel and u cant just forget about something/someone when u dont understand what happened.
i feel ya! :/
welcome to the club…a havin that problem right now…
first of all whats a visa phone? (2nd paragraph last 2 words)
i would ignore them, atleast ur the one who tried contacting them and u apologized first. You get to be the “bigger” person in this situation. I had a similar experience, and hated it, in the end, they would pretend to be enjoying their time with me (of course I never saw them alone) until i was like blow off. You dont like me for no reason, so I’ll just do the same even though I tried to understand.
elly ma y3arfik ma yqadrik
happy eid
visa phone thingi was a joke,
when i re-read it, it seemed like i belived there was such a thing.
…just clarifying
emm I’m sooowwllly.. thats so mean.. you don’t want a friend like that trust me.. like you said “so called friend”
I know that you mean and frankly with ppl like that I’ve adopted the “6aaf attitude”.
(it still bothers me at times.. but with time “6aaf attitude” overtakes even that)
“Real friends don’t just decide to drop down other friends without prior notice”
honey, real frieds don’t decide to drop down other friends PERIOD!
kel3am wentay eb alf khair =}
flamy,
That’s the thing, if it’s worth it. Is it really? Is it worth it to them?
purg,
I did ;P
toomz,
with other friends, it was much easier to move on.
broke,
OK.
msb,
It’s one of the non-stopping life issues.
spikey,
hehehe so what are you doing about it?
yazeed,
LOL I meant “Via”, now I am too lazy to go back and change it…
diigma,
the “6af” attitude… hmmm!
sponta,
Sajja!
the concept of “real friends” has changed. you can never tell wether this person is a friend or foe, especially if you’ve been hit hard. 3eedich mbarak
hi sis
first happy eid o 3sach mn 3wadah
second, about “them”, simply they are coward, they even couldnot talk to u face to face…
hun try to go over it, and we will support u , and inshallah u will find better, kinder friends .. who would truely appreciate the friendship concept
love ya sis
Khara3teeeni! I had your page open and I was trying to see work email then I hear music and I was wondering ha!
When will prince go away from your picture
brava,
I don’t beleive in “real friends” any more.
felicity,
ayamech sa3eda
purg,
YOU? THE PURG is scared? ha ha ha ;P I guess I got you! and stop the Prince Mania. That is not Prince.
I hate it when friends have a problem with me and they dont confront me instead they act childish and ignore me/be rude to me. Had that recently happen to me, I ignored them back and treated them like the kids they were acting.
I would try to hard, u did ur part and more if they choose to continue being kids than calling them again would just encourge them to be more childish and seek more attention.
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True, Friends dont decid to drop friends just like that .. so try to remember if you did or say something wrong.. It must be something u did dont just blame them cuz u may be guilty in the edn.. they’re too good to be mean u know. heh