You shouldn’t hate him or anyone else sweetheart.
Hate is an ugly word. I try not to use it or even say it.
Don’t make a place for hatred in your heart
I believe if you want to change something, try changing the way you think about it. I never said it’s easy to forget.. You can try.. You need the following:
1. You need time.
2. You need to keep you mind occupied.
3. Try to focus on what you can do to make yourself happy. Nothing includes men or food..
4. In the meantime you need some ME-TIME. Be selfish for a change
5. Make a list (just like this one) and write down all the positive things/people you’re glad you have in your life.
I’m trying to be helpful here, no matter what decision you make. I’ll be supposrtive because that’s what friends do
I wont say its his loss nor yours.. C’est la vie nothing lasts forever..
Sweetheart, No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone
Truly, Papillona
I don’t know what happened to you, but judging from your post, I conclude it is what I am currently going through myself… heartbreak and ache.
Yup… I’m here with occasional watery-eyes when I think about him, and the feeling that I am really alone now, and the belief that I will most probably end up being single forever…
however, I realise that this is a natural phase to go through, and at this point, I have no choice but to ‘ride the wave’ out, so to speak.
I do not hate him, cause that would just add more negativity to what I already am dealing with, but at the same time, I want him to hurt as much as I am.
The pain one feels in heartache is not only the loss, but the painful process of detaching one’s self emotionally from our significant other.
So live it, feel it, don’t deny it and we will overcome it.
Here’s a list of songs for you and The Grenadine to listen too. Subconscious suggestion is what it is meant to do, though its pretty explicit. Coupla other bloggers helped me put this together….
Say hello and wave goodbye David Gray
I will survive- Gloria Gaynor
Strong Enough- Cher
Fuck it (I don’t want you back)- Eamon
Hands Clean- Alanis Morissette
Walkin Away- Craig David
It aint me babe- Bob Dylan
Fighter- Christina Aguilera
Survivor- Destiny’s Child
Strong Enough- Cher
Stronger- Good Ol’ Britney Spears :-l
Sorry- Madonna
Bounce- Sarah Connor
Walk Away- Kelly Clarkson
I never really loved you anyway- The Corrs
Thanks for the song list:-) I’m doing okay, despite the hurt. I’m not the song-listening type, but rather the advice listening type. LOL
Im lucky that I have a friend who is sooo good at knowing human nature, and has enough knowledge, experience and info to become a shrink! So she and I have had a few lengthy chats, and with her help I’m feeling better.
Shopa sweetums,
In my case it’s simple.. “I can’t ” so the weakness is what hurts the most… in anything.. or any event.. Unconditional love is unconditional… no matter what.. just let it be.. it’s when u over think and over analyse that u loosen all the screws in ur head… live and let live.. let bygones be bygones… and don’t ever pollute your heart with HATE…
Dear .. your question makes it sound as if there were an obligation to hate the person you love when you brake up with him or her. but that is not the case.
It is ok to keep loving what is good in him or her. What you might want to consider is hating the needy attachment to that relationship.
dont worry o0 lat3a’3deen nafsich lana life just keeps on going.. ibtekberen o0 ibtensain
itha ‘6ag 5ilgich dont worry you can always contact the love doctor…o0 laa ana moo fawzia drai3
I think ‘trying’ to hate him hurts the most, simply because you don’t and you feel guilty causehe doesn’t deserve it.
You shouldn’t hate him or anyone else sweetheart.
Hate is an ugly word. I try not to use it or even say it.
Don’t make a place for hatred in your heart
Go travel with a friend and do something crazy.. it will help u forget and enjoy yourself.. remember how much you enjoy doing things yourself.
one word “rebound” hint hint..
None!
why hate, just go read papi last post and learn
alt+ delete = forever gone
hmmm how about screw him all together?
miya,
I tried hating once long time ago and failed to.
papi,
It is one ugly word
marzouq,
This is really what I need but can’t, wrong timing wrong evrything.
Dony
Missed ya ;*, I concluded can’t do the rebound thing, I get so attached that it just doesn’t work with me.
judy,
I thought alt+delete worked with me, but I guess I turned into a Mac and alt+dele doesn’t work on me!
baroque,
Hmmm!
Dearest Shopa,
I believe if you want to change something, try changing the way you think about it. I never said it’s easy to forget.. You can try.. You need the following:
1. You need time.
2. You need to keep you mind occupied.
3. Try to focus on what you can do to make yourself happy. Nothing includes men or food..
4. In the meantime you need some ME-TIME. Be selfish for a change
5. Make a list (just like this one) and write down all the positive things/people you’re glad you have in your life.
I’m trying to be helpful here, no matter what decision you make. I’ll be supposrtive because that’s what friends do
I wont say its his loss nor yours.. C’est la vie nothing lasts forever..
Sweetheart, No one loses anyone, because no one owns anyone
Truly, Papillona
hiya Shopaholic
I don’t know what happened to you, but judging from your post, I conclude it is what I am currently going through myself… heartbreak and ache.
Yup… I’m here with occasional watery-eyes when I think about him, and the feeling that I am really alone now, and the belief that I will most probably end up being single forever…
however, I realise that this is a natural phase to go through, and at this point, I have no choice but to ‘ride the wave’ out, so to speak.
I do not hate him, cause that would just add more negativity to what I already am dealing with, but at the same time, I want him to hurt as much as I am.
The pain one feels in heartache is not only the loss, but the painful process of detaching one’s self emotionally from our significant other.
So live it, feel it, don’t deny it and we will overcome it.
:*
Here’s a list of songs for you and The Grenadine to listen too. Subconscious suggestion is what it is meant to do, though its pretty explicit. Coupla other bloggers helped me put this together….
Say hello and wave goodbye David Gray
I will survive- Gloria Gaynor
Strong Enough- Cher
Fuck it (I don’t want you back)- Eamon
Hands Clean- Alanis Morissette
Walkin Away- Craig David
It aint me babe- Bob Dylan
Fighter- Christina Aguilera
Survivor- Destiny’s Child
Strong Enough- Cher
Stronger- Good Ol’ Britney Spears :-l
Sorry- Madonna
Bounce- Sarah Connor
Walk Away- Kelly Clarkson
I never really loved you anyway- The Corrs
I think that thinking you should hate him hurts more
coz hating someone means deep inside that you still have feelings for him, nobody hates a person that he doesn’t care about
“Which hurts more?”
I think it’s the state of confusion that just keeps you stressed the whole time.
Jitterbug:
Thanks for the song list:-) I’m doing okay, despite the hurt. I’m not the song-listening type, but rather the advice listening type. LOL
Im lucky that I have a friend who is sooo good at knowing human nature, and has enough knowledge, experience and info to become a shrink!
So she and I have had a few lengthy chats, and with her help I’m feeling better.
Thank you again for your kind thought:-)
Shopa sweetums,
In my case it’s simple.. “I can’t ” so the weakness is what hurts the most… in anything.. or any event.. Unconditional love is unconditional… no matter what.. just let it be.. it’s when u over think and over analyse that u loosen all the screws in ur head… live and let live.. let bygones be bygones… and don’t ever pollute your heart with HATE…
Hi Shopa
long time no see. ‘missed you wallah.
Dear .. your question makes it sound as if there were an obligation to hate the person you love when you brake up with him or her. but that is not the case.
It is ok to keep loving what is good in him or her. What you might want to consider is hating the needy attachment to that relationship.
dont worry o0 lat3a’3deen nafsich lana life just keeps on going.. ibtekberen o0 ibtensain
itha ‘6ag 5ilgich dont worry you can always contact the love doctor…o0 laa ana moo fawzia drai3
Why hate??! Just see how many persons are here to give support to you..cheer up ya!
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