Inspired by “Lee”

Listening to THIS

Going back to the “confusing” subject of relationships and spinning away from all the political talk. In a relationship, why do we consider ourselves “victims”? Why do we think that it’s the other person’s fault? We are always the “good” ones & they are the “bad” ones.

When things go wrong, we focus on how we treated them really good while in return they did us bad. I bet they think exactly the same. People need to take a deeper look. Little meaningless things we say can sometimes hurt others. Being in a relationship is a loop that keeps going. She treated you badly because you did me bad. I was treated this way because I did it to him although he treated me good. He, too, was treated badly because once he did it to her; and it keeps going & going & going.

In relationships, there’s no good & bad. We all possess angels and demons within ourselves, we just don’t realize it. We are both the victim and the perpetrator.

25 Responses to “Inspired by “Lee””


  1. 1 Purgatory May 8th, 2006 at 2:49 pm

    PLEASE NO MORE JAMES BLUNT, I WILL COMMIT SUICIDE!!!

  2. 2 Purgatory May 8th, 2006 at 2:50 pm

    AND DON’T SAY YOU WOULD LOVE TO SEE ME DIE, BECAUSE I KNOW YOU DO :p

  3. 3 The Stallion May 8th, 2006 at 3:13 pm

    Unlike Purg I like your post! ;o)

  4. 4 Shopaholic Q8eya May 8th, 2006 at 3:35 pm

    Purg,
    LOL Tekhare3! How did you know I’d say that ;P

    Stallion,
    Thanks ;P

  5. 5 Purgatory May 8th, 2006 at 3:50 pm

    because I know you would like to get rid of your old advisor

  6. 6 Shopaholic Q8eya May 8th, 2006 at 4:00 pm

    you will always be “THE ADVISOR”

  7. 7 Purgatory May 8th, 2006 at 4:22 pm

    Ok, show me your bank statement for the last 2 months

  8. 8 Baroque May 8th, 2006 at 4:26 pm

    i’m starting to not believe in all that Karma shit, what goes around comes around..

    he did that to me, because i did that to him..

    NO..

    i personally have been bit on the butt several times by karma, and if it doesn’t stop! i’ll so bite it back :P
    loved the post

  9. 9 Exceer May 8th, 2006 at 11:31 pm

    while reading your post, i felt like i am in a “sex and the city” episode :)
    LOL @ purg

  10. 10 Anonymous May 8th, 2006 at 11:48 pm

    kil gewe eyey min agwa minnah shopa ;)

  11. 11 Mini Я. May 9th, 2006 at 8:34 am

    James Blunt sux ass.

    I’m sure you’re the PERP in the relationship ;p

    Nah kidding…for some reason people think they’re the perfect ones who don’t do wrong in a relationship. Which is stupid.

  12. 12 Shopaholic Q8eya May 9th, 2006 at 9:39 am

    Purg,
    Over coffee?

    baroque,
    You have to beleive in Karma, I do!

    exceer,
    Sex & the city 3ad?

    anon,
    Yeh, I guess you’re right.

    mini R,
    I know I did many stupid things and I admit it.

  13. 13 soud13 May 9th, 2006 at 7:32 pm

    good post

    soud

  14. 14 Purgatory May 9th, 2006 at 9:06 pm

    k

  15. 15 DiiGMaa May 10th, 2006 at 11:57 am

    “We all possess angels and demons within ourselves, we just don’t realize it. We are both the victim and the perpetrator”

    Girl I completely agree !!

    sooooooo true !!

  16. 16 Shopaholic Q8eya May 10th, 2006 at 2:25 pm

    soud,
    thanks

    purg ;P

    diigma,
    it is true but sometimes we tend to forget about it. We have to always remember this fact.

  17. 17 Anonymous May 10th, 2006 at 8:38 pm

    5elasna min Boo o ballashna fe James Blunt! hmffff

  18. 18 Judy Abbott May 11th, 2006 at 2:20 am

    i tottaly understand …

    personally if he is bad to me..then i’m not good enough to make him treat me good. “thats my policy in a relation”

    so either end it o a6la3 eb may wayhey…or do stupid things that will never make it work.

    What goes around, comes around…i believe in that.
    ————–

    تعبنا من العبه … نبي اصلاح سياسي
    و نبي الخمسه

  19. 19 mabya3ah May 12th, 2006 at 1:13 pm

    Shop,
    It hurts, it kills.. But ultimately if you were going through that much drama and stress it means that something within you two was not compatible. Neither is to blame completely but more often than not one party is always more guilty than the other. And of course, if you bring baggage from past relationships or Boo brought baggage from past relationships that always screws things up. But please avoid lapsing into the blame game. Contrary to what is sometimes believed, and Judy this is for you too, if your significant other is bad to you, it is not because you are not good enough. If you were not good enough they would a)talk to you about it or b)leave you. The person is bad to you because either you are bad to them and they are too immature to confront you about it, or because they have insecurities or character flaws that they take out on you.

    Love your posts, Shop. Your definetly filling the void the ending of Sex in the City has left in me :P

  20. 20 Hazolat May 13th, 2006 at 11:34 am

    Love this post! It’s extremely true, in love, relationships and arguments in general some people tend to be immediately aggressive and defensive in stead of simply listening to the other persons views and reaching out to understand the other party.

    The more we give, the more we get in return. Life’s too short, so love love love one another, Moo A7san Min i6ag wil Khnag?

  21. 21 Shopaholic Q8eya May 13th, 2006 at 2:44 pm

    judy,
    what goes around will come around for sure.

    mabya3ah,
    The whole point behind this post is that we shouldn’t do the blame game. again, it’s not about who’s fault is it, it’s all about how to deal with this problem.

    hazolat,
    I agree ;P

  22. 22 MissCosmoKuwait May 14th, 2006 at 3:49 pm

    I totally agree..that’s why I read all the self help books I can get my hands on..that way..I’m gonna end up being close to perfect and when He comes along…he’s gonna end up being close to perfect too!..(so wishful thinking!)..LOL

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