I don’t agree with your friend who thinks that “those who love fight all the time”. I believe that once you love someone, you want to make him/her happy all the time and you avoid those small fights. No one wants to be in a relationship where they fight so much. You should be calm and understanding. Save those fights for something that is worth it.

One of you (if not both) will get bored of these fights and wont be able to take it anymore. Take your time and think if you want to go on or leave. If you don’t want it to end, then think of changing what it’s supposed to be change in order to keep this relationship steady.

S.S.

If your arguing about silly things, there most be some unadressed issues you both have, they may not necessarily be the same thing. But you both have things to sort out.

My advice, think deeply about it and make a list of things that are bothering you, also make a list of the things you love about him and you can’t live without.

Call him up, be calm, invite him for an extra special dinner. The kind you would go to if it was your or his birthday. Have a good time, and then open up. Really open up, tell him everything you thought about. O inshAllah he’ll open up to you as well. But be sure not to end up making it into a nag-party, whenever you say something negative balance it out with something positive. Make him feel better about himself, so hes able to talk freely with you.

O Allah y3eenich, I know how frustrating it can be. Good luck and tell us what happens.

Thats what I think.

You miss him, so you say something to tease him. He doesn’t react the way you want him to. You get upset, he gets upset, and before you know it you’re fighting and bringing up stuff that should stay in the past.

Go out on a real date. If you still end up fighting on your date, then it’s a deeper problem.

Purgy,
he is a good friend of mine.

Delic. Real.,
We’ve done the list part. Well, I’ve done it not him but only the things that bother me.

Donveto,
I guess so.

mcarabian,
I think you got it right. Maybe it’s beacuse it’s been along time since we got together the 2 of us with no other friends. I was gone for months and during that time whenever I saw him we were surrounded with friends!

i freak out when nothing is happening and everything is just quite..

Don’t know how u’re dealling with it.. 3 days is alot.. someone has to sacrifice, and do the first step..

call him up.. tell him that u can’t going on like that.. laymita hal sokoot o0 chinna makoo shay 9ayer..

call him up and spill everything out.. reconcile things.. make sure you never do this silent treatment again, yama relationships fell apart during this quiet time..

Love, easy to spell, yet so0 damn hard to understand!

Good Luck Shopa!

One of you should calm things once the other is in fire, and I really advise you not to think whether this fight is small or big. Fight is fight and should be solved equally no matter what. I half agree on most of what papillona said, except “Save those fights for something that is worth it” This is simply because when you do this, you’ll end up with tears, and this is the last thing anyone wants. And, you’re not gonna “save” things for fighting, are you?

Big fights will never occur and happen when the smalls are immediately tackled!

I also believe what did lead to those fights is simply “misunderstanding” and you both should do something about it. Most of relationships unfortunately are broken when one of the couple is like “I won’t call him till he/she apologies, or till he/she understands” That should not be the case. What the case should be, in my opinion, is “I’ll call him/her and feel sorry for what we both are having, and make the situation or problem so clear and understandable”

I’m not gonna advise you in general, so according to “I don’t understand..” I’ll advise you to call him and asks for reasons and never say anything will make him angry and upset, and if he says “you already know” then in this case, say “If I already know, I would not call for your help, I’m your love and in a need of your help and support” and that surely will calm things.

Add to that, an apology as a start “apologizing for him, whether you’re right or not, is the least you can do for him”

Once he says, then take what he says away and go think of the availabilities you have and discuss them in order to solve the problem. Never ever indicate an “end” as one of them. Anything could be solved! All you need for now is “patience and belief” Do NOT ever solve it while you’re talking to him, and just heard the reasons.. Telling him that you’re going away to think and solve the problems will tell him something at least and then he will know that you’re putting all you’ve got into this relationship! He’s a human! He’s gonna appreciate it oneday!

My last one, when you both solve and tackle a problem that should NOT be forgotten easily whatsoever! And finally, always have a belief and never give up.

Hint: You’re not in a position where you can say who’s right and who’s wrong! Neither is he!

salam.

30 hours of no talking is a break up, and unless he’s SO THE ONE, then its NEXT please

If it doesn’t work out, its always for the best!

(I think God has a good hand in these things)

Charisma,
Sometime you need some silent phase to calm things down.

funny,
you think so? Hmm

ayya,
THAT’S ME! I always choose the wrong time do discuss stuff. I am trying hard but it’s always the wrong timing.

moodlonely,
WOW that was long! but so true and helpful. I think we are one of those people that do “I wont call unless he calls first blah blah blah”. You are so right, we are both at wrong and we agree that should work it out because we want to.

Sheba,
30 hours of not talking is NOT a break-up! and I really think he is the one ;P

nice,
I think it’s me who is bored

you can either:-

a)not call him or achieve contact and live the rest of your life to regret it, if he really is the “one”

b)face the facts, love is a bumpy ride with romance and fights coming as a package.. and just resolve the whole thing and be diplomatic.. and eventually forgive and forget..

C) hehe commit suicide Just joking..

what are u going to do?

**i hope u know who i am** Shhh!

As for all the fighting, only you can know why these fights have become so frequent, maybe its frustration because you are not together or don’t see each other so often or it could be any other thing, only you and him can really answer that question, good luck with your problem and by the way 30 hours of silence is not a breakup!

well, now I think I know what is the problem. We are very different in a way and both have certain concerns. Lately, we didn’t get a chance to each other nor talk. We’ve talked about it and hopefuly things will be just fine.