Published by shopa May 6th, 2008
in Love, Communication and Feelings.
At work earlier today, something funny happened. Same girl yet even better story to tell. I immediately picked up my phone and wrote a text message. Man, was it a really long message. I got excited writing it, typing all those details, laughing and thinking what will the reply be like. It would be as always, something even funnier than the story itself.
Clicked on “Save & Send”, and then I read “Insert Number”. It then hit me. I deleted your number. I reread the message. I laughed once again; this time with a tear in my eye.
“Save to Drafts”? NO!!! Message was deleted…
And just like that, in a split of a second the message was gone. Just like you were gone from my life.
I sometimes wonder if you feel the same….then I wish I didn’t.
I hope you are enjoying your day as much as I am enjoying mine.
Love,
S.
Published by shopa May 4th, 2008
in Women, Men and Relationships.
After a Break-up, many of us feel as if we are not ready to start something new. We often say phrases like “It’s still way too early”, or “I am not ready, I just got out of something”, or even “I need some time alone”. If a “break-up” means the relationship got broken up aka is over, what is it that keeps us from starting something new right away? Why is time so important after a break-up? I couldn’t stop wondering, do we really need a time off between relationships? Or do we just need the time in hope that it is not over?
I confess! Almost one year after a break-up, guilt made its way inside of me while getting to know someone new. It felt as if I was cheating! Yet I wasn’t. Or maybe I was? Maybe I was cheating myself for almost a year not wanting to believe it was really over?
This made me think that what we really need is to set some kind of a “After Break-Up Rules”. And sine we love having what so called “time” in everything that has to do with relationships, maybe our first “After A Break-Up Rule” should be a time oriented rule.
After a break-up we should all follow what I like to call “The 2 Day Rule”. We are allowed to be hanged over by a relationship for only two days during which we can be sad, cry our eyes out, listen to love songs and endlessly nag about our EXs to our loyal girlfriends. When the clock ticks ending the two day period, we should stop. We should get a hold of our lives back and get back on track. Two days after a break-up and then we may meet new people, flirt, and go out on dates. There should be no feeling of guilt whatsoever. After all, life goes indifferent to whether it was after two days or two decades.
Published by shopa April 27th, 2008
in Relationships, Love and Quotes.
“Soul mate; two little words, one big concept.. A belief that someone somewhere is holding the key to your heart and your dream house. All you have to to do is find them!
So where is this person? And if you love this someone and it didn’t work out; does that mean they weren’t your soul mate? Were they just a run-up contestant in this game show called happily ever after?
And as you move from age box to age box; and the contestants get fewer and fewer, are your chance of finding your soul mate is less and less?”
- Carrie Bradshaw, Sex & The City
Happy Birthday
Published by shopa April 25th, 2008
in Women, Men and Quotes.
When going through a break-up friends try easy things up for us in every possible way. Some would give us a hug, while others would listen to us complaining. Some friends would start calling the EX names, while others would say things like “you deserve better” & “you are better off without him”.
Yesterday morning, a dear friend had her own way of comforting me. She text messaged me early in the morning saying “Hope you are bright as always & remember, “Chalb ra7 10 ghera eyon” (Translated to: A dog gone, 10 others to come).
I couldn’t stop thinking about her statement all day. Is it true? Do we, girls, tend to keep dating a “Chalb” over & over again? And why do we not realize that he is one “Chalb” until we break-up?
Wasn’t he the one we kept dreaming about? Wasn’t he our Mr. Right? Didn’t we think that we are lucky for being with such a man? Then what is the real reasons behind him turning into a “Chalb”?
One would cheat on us, one would lie; and one would just have a change of heart. Many reasons, one outcome; he always turn out to be a “Chalb”. Then what? What do we do next? We go and find our next “Chalb”.
Published by shopa April 24th, 2008
in Personal and Relationships.
And just like that I woke up one morning and he was gone….
Suprisngly I am not crying…I cried…A little at first…But then my tears went dry…Inside of me, I feel like crying but it just won’t come out…
Sometimes we live a dream and wish it will come true…It will never…
The worst thing is living the same dream twice…and realizing it will never come true again…
The best thing is that by the second time, you grow stronger…and wake up the next morning thinking “C’est fini…I’m moving on….C’est la vie”….
Published by shopa April 20th, 2008
in Personal and Life.
For the second year in a row I forget to acknowledge the birthday of Shopaholic Q8eya. It’s just so weird! I never forget birthdays yet I keep forgetting it.
Well I guess Happy Belated Blogeversary Shopaholic Q8eya.
A quick update on the life of Shopa. I’ve been beyond busy the past few weeks. So many things going on at the same time. I feel as if I will breakdown very soon. I have many stories to write here yet I can’t find the time to properly sit and type them up. As I am typing this post, I am doing two other things at the same time and it’s driving me crazy.
I want to come back home and RELAX. I don’t want to look at my calendar to see what is my next meeting. I don’t want to check my email to read about another issue that needs to be resolved. I want to lay down on my bed, read a book, chat with my friends; or just sleep.
If my day had one more hour, life would be perfect.
Published by shopa April 8th, 2008
in Work, career and Funny.
At a business meeting with a client this morning, he kept staring at me. I have never seen him in my life before. He kept staring so I smiled. When the chairperson announced a break, he approached me.
Client: Hello..
Shopa: Hello back..
Client: Do I know you?
Shopa: Hmmm!!! I guess so. You are my client.
Client: No, NO! I mean DO I KNOW YOU?
Shopa: I don’t think so.
Client: Ok.
Shopa: Ok!
Client: Can I ask you a question?
Shopa: Sure..
Client: You have a facebook account, right?
Shopa: !!!!! Sorry?
Client: Facebook. You are on facebook, right?
Shopa: Yes…!!!
Client: Yeh, now I remembered. Your pictures are everywhere on Facebook.
Shopa: Oh..
Client: Well, maybe I’ll poke you.
Shopa: Ok! Excuse me, I have to answer this call.
Published by shopa March 30th, 2008
in Women, Men, Relationships, Love and Communication.
Her: Don’t you miss me?
Him: Lol…Yes…I do.
Her: What’s so funny?
Him: I was cheacking your profile when you sent the msg…For some reason I laughed.
Her: Stalker…
Him: You pissed me off..But…Lol..
Her: Why?
Him: The status stuff.
Her: What about it?
Him: That’s mainly why I didn’t call you.
Her: You wanted to call me?
Him: Yes…I “thought” of calling.
Her: Why didn’t you call?
Him: I was pissed.
Him: Well, it was a bad idea to call you back then…Just like it was a bad idea to call you the last time.
Her: Why?
Him: I wasn’t ready to talk…and you wanted answers.
Her: So you bullshitted me?
Him: I DID NOT…I told you what I really felt…It didn’t make sense because I couldn’t make sense of any of it.
Her: I really like what “we” had…I am sorry “Us” didn’t work out…
Him: Me too…
Her: Inside of me there is a tiny bit of a hope…
Him: Hope for what?
Her: For “Us” to work…
Him: I wish I was as optimistic as you are…
Her: You know what’s really funny?
Him: What?
Her: I was kind of “talking/seeing” someone…Yet every time he calls, I think of you….Every time he msgs me, I wish it was you…
Him:When were you “talking/seeing” someone?
Her: Last week….and until I just msged you
Her: I miss you terribly…
Him: For the first time in my life I wanted to die after I hung up the phone with you..But life goes on I guess…and people forget..
Her: If you wanted to die…and I almost died out of depression and tears then why can’t we be together?
Him: I wanted to die because I felt like shit the way I treated you at the end…And I’m sorry for that but I don’t see us together now or in the future..
Her: Was is it something I did?
Him: No.
Her: Was it all an act what you said and did?
Him: FUCK!! I had a choice to end the relationship now or later..Because it hit me…It got serious in a way I never had…Usually when I’m serious with someone I know what I want to do or where I want to go…This time I didn’t know any of this..I freaked out..I didn’t want to lead you and go on the way we were and leave you down the road when I freaking know were the hell I am..
Her: I wish you ended it later..That I was expecting…ending it now, I never expected..This is why it hurt me bad…
Him: I’m sorry I did…I didn’t want to be “the guy who used me & left”…I’m so sorry..
Her: I wish you were one of those “A$$” guys…
Him: This is the hardest thing I’ve done in my life..and of all the people in the world..I did not want to hurt you..I know this will not mean anything to you but I’m really sorry..
Her: I am in need for you to hold my hands…Take me in your arms..Give me a big hug… Kiss me…
Him: Ok..
Her: OK what?
Him: The last part.
Her: I really meant it…
Him: I really mean it…
Her: Can I come over?
Him: Yes…
Him: Where are you?
Her: Home…
Him: are you coming?
Her: I want to..
Him: Aha…
Her: Give me 20 minutes.
Him: Don’t! Talk to you tomorrow…Good night.
Her: Good night
Published by shopa March 21st, 2008
in Do; Don't.
Him breaking up with her because he is falling for her??
Published by shopa March 17th, 2008
in Kuwait and Politics.
!!!ديرة بطيخ
!!لأ!!لأ
!!البطيخ لذيذ وأنا أحبه
Question of the day: Is البطيخ “watermelon”? Or “Melon”?? I always get them confused.